Heart to Heart

Mike and I had a heart to heart last night. I'm not sure if I want get into the details of it but, it wasn't easy.

The bottom line is that while I know he loves me, his jokes that were funny when we didnt have any kids arent appropriate and feel insulting now that we have a child. I dont want her to think saying those things to her mother are ok. I am not sure if he understood, he said he did and that he will stop. We will see.

He on the other hand said that he doesnt feel I am loving to him as I used to be. I told him how can I be? When you make those jokes, you dont chip away at my self-esteem, that you cant change, but it does effect how I want to interact with you.

Who wants to cuddle next to a man that just made a joke about you that was not nice?

I think he has a hard time understanding why it was ok before and I laughed but, now I get upset. I guess motherhood changes you. If a my future son-in-law would say those kinds of things about my daughter he would find my shoe wedged in his booty. And he would not have my respect. Same rule should apply to my husband.